This is part of an email to a friend, about the nature of intimate relationship: This feeling about the struggle you experienced in your relationship--- you expressed it like this: "It's not worth it, it's too much, I want to give up.."

This is the human imprint in your lineage, the conditioning that has come down to you through your ancestral line. ...It’s the very same thing that drives you crazy in your brother. (or used to) What is the point of withdrawing to a safe place, far from conflict and betrayal? As long as these feelings and fixations disturb us, we have to stay right where we are, in the middle of relationship, in the heat of intimacy, and allow the light of our awareness to penetrate through the conditioning. There is no way out but through..

As long as we run away and make excuses about how hard it is, we are fighting with the force of our own evolution.